Sosh: Improving Social Skills with Children and Adolescents

This book complements the Sōsh mobile application and also serves as a great starting point toward helping to develop a child or teen’s social skills. The book outlines the Sōsh approach, detailing the "5R's", and provides strategies for adults who wish to help a child with social skills. This book will guide you and your child toward accomplishing your social goals using the following strategies:

Relate (Connect with Others):

  • Getting out of the house and into social settings
  • Facilitating play dates
  • Locating the ideal play partner
  • Starting and maintaining conversations
  • Basic talking strategies (eye contact, speech volume, etc.)
  • Understanding figures of speech and idioms
  • Learning about topics that interest others to strengthen relationships

Relax (Reduce Stress):

  • Managing stress with specific relaxation strategies
  • Overcoming school avoidance or difficulty getting out of the house
  • Managing sensory issues
  • Recognizing when medications may be indicated
  • Addressing general shyness in social situations

Reason (Think it Through):

  • Using video recordings to improve critical thinking
  • Making successful transitions
  • Perspective-taking to increase mental flexibility
  • Solving problems effectively
  • Specific strategies to improve school performance and completion of home routines
  • Individualized Education Program (IEP) suggestions

Regulate (Manage Behaviors):

  • Managing behaviors
  • Increasing good behaviors and reducing bad behaviors
  • Learning effective uses of time out
  • Establishing a set of household rules that children respond to
  • Monitoring recurring behaviors (e.g., interrupting, talking loudly, boundaries)

Recognize (Understand Feelings):

  • Setting goals to improve social skills development
  • Linking behaviors to consequences
  • Learning how to recognize the feelings of others
  • Understanding facial expressions


In addition to the 5R's, the book also includes chapters on child development, school functioning, and barriers to social success.

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About the Author

Dr. Mark Bowers is a licensed pediatric psychologist in private practice in Ann Arbor, Michigan. He has provided psychological services to children, adolescents, and families for over a decade. He specializes in neurodevelopmental diagnoses (i.e., Autism, Asperger's, ADHD, Traumatic Brain Injury, and Learning Difficulties), and he is an expert in social skills.

Dr. Mark has worked with children at the world-renowned Menninger Clinic, worked as a consultant and therapist within the public school system, and completed his internship in Clinical Child/Pediatric Psychology at Denver Children's Hospital.

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